Published 7 May 2012
Voices: Regina Sun
We caught Regina Sun as she returned to work after maternity leave and quizzed her on life, faith, work, and family.
By Regina SunA blog post Women Scholars and Professionals


My parents became Christians when I was in junior high and we all started going to church together. They are super-supportive, and my mom is a big prayer warrior.
Before I met my husband, I felt like it was hard to find the right person to marry. I think some Christian men had the wrong impression of me. Since I was pursuing a higher degree, I was labeled as too career-oriented instead of family-oriented. They might think that a woman on a career track might not want to have kids. I remember talking to my mom about this. She asked me to write a list of all the characteristics I hoped for in a husband. These included a goofy sense of humor, business-minded, love of God, makes me giddy when I see him, strong family values — the list was quite long! She prayed over that for a long time.
I actually knew of Eric when I was in high school, but we didn’t become friends until I went to medical school. We hung out as friends for years and couldn’t even imagine dating one another. Eric told me later that he had signed up on Match.com and my name appeared as his number one match and he was like, “Dang it! I already know her!”
When Eric and I finally began dating at the end of my residency, my mom took the list out again and showed it to me. He had all the characteristics that mattered most to me. We dated for about three years (part of that long-distance, while I was in Minneapolis for my fellowship) before we got married.
Motherhood has been amazing. I had some challenges during the pregnancy, and I’m so grateful for a healthy baby. It was a good reminder that God is in control and I’m not.
My maternity leave was 12 weeks long, and now I’m back at work full-time. Evan is in daycare during the day. My husband and I talked about nanny versus daycare. We felt like daycare was a good option for Evan to socialize, get different experiences, and to be around other children. Our parents were very willing to help out with childcare, but we decided not to take that option because both our parents are quite active — working part-time, taking classes, or volunteering at church. I didn’t want them to feel tied down to taking care of him. I think once we have more of a routine, the grandparents are more than welcome to watch him once in awhile. So far, Evan has adapted well to daycare and is napping and eating well. It is not without guilt that I drop him off and go to work, but right now this seems like a good fit for our family.

Thankfully my work hours are pretty regular so that makes for easier planning. We are also blessed to have both sets of grandparents in Houston to be our backup. It also helps me to have a task list so I can try to accomplish some things at work while I wait for patients. I do things like pay bills, make phone calls, and I also try to go to the grocery store on my lunch breaks. My husband and I also had a discussion about how we could better divvy up the housework and caring for the dogs at home. Having a maid service every two weeks has provided so much sanity! I’d like to also be able to spend more time in quiet times and reading, but haven’t quite figured out how to do that every day or even once a week!
Pretty much what I’m doing now! I would still love to be working. I’d love to take regular trips for missions, perhaps to a community that I have a relationship with where I can go every year. I’d love to have figured out how to be a mom and balance a career by that time!
During my pregnancy, I read Praying Through Your Pregnancy, which I thought was phenomenal. For every week of your pregnancy, it went over the development of the baby and then expanded upon it spiritually to help you pray for your child. So, when you pray for their physical heart, you also pray for their heart for people and for compassion. It was my favorite book to read in my pregnancy.
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